Therapy for Codependency

Codependency and people-pleasing are learned behaviors to gain control in often intolerable situations. You may have needed it at a time in your life, but find it is no longer working now. People struggling with codependency typically have a history of trauma, abuse, neglect or other painful experiences. Even if no longer in those situations, you may experience deep loneliness from hiding yourself from others, resentment, physical aches and pains, numbness/intellectualizing feelings, substance/alcohol use or perfectionism. My clients often come to me to address codependency during big life transitions, like becoming new parents, taking care of elders, relationship crises, where the old way of operating is no longer enough and everything feels overwhelming. The goal of treating codependency is not independence or isolation, but interdependence. True intimacy means comfort asking for help, not just providing it to others.

I am a psychodynamic/psychoanalytic psychotherapist who will listen deeply to understand your background first and then work towards unpacking your thoughts/feelings and patterns of behavior. I value feedback from my clients, and believe therapy is a space to practice finding your voice and advocating for yourself. While I use a trauma-informed approach incorporating grounding strategies and establishing safety— the demands of our era merit more than just coping strategies. I look for clients who are ready to engage in deep and meaningful work, where radical honesty in the therapeutic relationship leads to lasting change.